A little bit about fat-shaming….

Hi Guys & Dolls!

Thank you All for the Love & Support on my latest video- Punk Rock Cleopatra

Sadly there were a lot of rude & disrespectful comments on this video- the usual mixed bag of generic “UR FAT”, to backhanded compliments like “At first I was repulsed by your body, but then I saw that you rocked your curves, good for you” …and who could forget, the “You’re pretty but you should think about losing some weight, you know, for your health”. Puh-lease. If fat-shaming worked, no one would be fat.

Thank you to everyone who stood up for me, you’re all so sweet. I decided to delete the defensive comments as well because it got a bit out of hand. While fat shaming is rampant in our culture, we also need to check ourselves for thoughts like “real women have curves” because that’s just not true. REAL WOMEN come in ALL shapes and sizes, and shaming anyone for their body is damaging to all women. I would never want someone to find me attractive BECAUSE I am fat. I want to be appreciated for me. Being fat and these curves is part of my individual beauty. I also have blue eyes, pale skin and pink hair; all just aspects of me- not all that I am.  It makes me so sad that people can’t see past the fact that someone has a different body type.  Beauty comes is both small and large packages, and being able to appreciate both means seeing true beauty.

please share your thoughts

Love,

Cora

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96 thoughts on “A little bit about fat-shaming….

  1. Absolutely! Women have got to stop thinking about what they aren’t or how they compare to everyone else. Individuals are just that–individuals! And no amount of judgement is going to coerce someone into what someone else may believe is a “healthy” choice.

    1. I don’t understand why people say such hurtful things on YouTube! I know these MFs (xcuse my French) wouldn’t be saying this stuff to your face! I think they are just jealous that you can rock it like you do! That is why the human race can be so ugly, I follow the golden rule and treat everyone they way I want to be treated. I feel like if that we’re law the world would be a better place! I love my body and I love my curves! Fight the power, damn the man till curvy girls rule the land!

    2. I’m just starting to learn to love my curves. Thanks to my fiancé and even thanks to you I’m more comfortable being me. Thank you for standing up for us all, big and small!

  2. You’re beautiful inside and out. I’m a size 0 and get hate for my body. It can be hard for me to find clothes that fit and I instantly get labeled as someone with a health problem. It’s my body and I love it and you’re so inspirational. Thank you.

  3. Unfortunately if you don’t meet society’s standards of beauty, you’re a target for nufties. It upsets me too as a larger girl. I’ve lost 100lb for health reasons (I’ve got back and hip problems which, ironically, got worse as I lost weight, so HAH!) but I’ve still got about 50-60lb to lose before I’m considered “normal”. At the moment I’m just reveling in being HEALTHY, which I think is far more important.

    Back-handed compliments are the worst and my favourite… “You got such a pretty FACE…” veeeeeery long pause…

    *rolls eyes*

    Whatever. You rocked this, Cora. Well done.

  4. I have a YouTube channel and I am still affected by mean comments. I try to let them roll off but since I can’t, I do delete and block those who leave them. There is no reason to leave them on, so they have a sounding platform. Good for you Cora. I love that you love yourself, it’s the way it should be.

  5. I hate haters.

    But I love your style! I wish I was shaped in the way you are. My fat gives me an awful shape but I’m not complaining. I love how I look. In fact, the other day I had posted on my FB that “Damn, I look good today!”

    I just wish I could get my make-up working for me… :/

    hehe

  6. As usual, you are spot on, Cora! Is makes me sad that people can’t see past someone’s size, be it super small, super large, or in between!
    As a plus size girl, I have had more than my fair share of rude comments, but I have a friend who people make anorexic comments about (and she certainly is not anorexic)and I have seen how that is just as hurtful to her as the fat jokes are to me.
    As far as we have come with accepting many things in today’s society, we are still not getting it in this major way! I hope someday (soon) we will!

  7. Yup, that sucks big time when all people focus on is your weight. Like that’s all there is to you, I mean it’s not like your an amazing make up artist or you have an awesome style or crazy cool hair, which of course you’re all of those things. Our society is bad for being so hyper focused on a persons physical shape. It’s terrible to do to anyone even skinny people don’t like hearing “you’re too skinny, eat something”. I wish people would learn it’s not their business to tell a person they need to lose weight to be healthy (there are plenty of skinny people who are not healthy) or they need to eat to gain. Why can’t we just learn to appreciate people for who they are and what they stand for and what they represent.

  8. I think you’re amazing and not for nothing, you are a role model for EVERY WOMAN who is not a perfect size 6 or whatever. No one is perfect and unfortunately, people have no problem posting hurtful comments because its the internet and they hide behind their screens and keyboards. No one has a right to attack you..
    In addition, the posters of comments like that, are nasty hateful people that have no respect or manners. Internet bullies! I know its easy to say “brush it off”, but it still hurts, no matter how hard we try to ignore it.
    Hold your head high, gorgeous, they are all just angry jealous people..

  9. I wish that I had your confidence. I too am a big girl and I’ve been that way my whole life. People making fun of me has ruined my confidence, probably forever. I have a wonderful husband who tells me I’m beautiful daily and instead of being appreciative, it makes me mad! I feel as though he is insulting my intelligence! People don’t understand what they do to people emotionally when they make fun of them. It sticks with you. If you let it, it shapes who you are for the rest of your life. I don’t wear shorts, capris, or even sleeveless shirts. And a bathing suit? Yeah, you’d have to kill me to get me in one. People need to stop with the bullying. Bullying of ANYONE! Cora, you are amazing, so funny, and beautiful just the way you are! I’ve watched you since your YouTube journey began and I know thousands upon thousands of others have as well. You are my role model! Keep on doing what you’re doing. Yes, there’s a few people that are gonna hate (and you know they’d do it even if your were thin), but the number of people who love you, greatly out-weigh the number bullies.

  10. Hey Cora,

    I watch almost all your video’s weekly, I am fascinated by the work you have done, and reading your blog entry, it actually makes me feel a little sorry for people that can not see past looks. My partner is blind, and been turned down by a lot of woman because of that, (He can’t always maintain his looks.) I feel bad for those people basing everything on looks, because some of the nicest people I have ever known, are not perfect, they are all shapes and sizes, with a natural beauty.

    I had Social Anxiety to the point I could not leave the house, fearing that I would get flamed some more for being a big girl. When I started watching your video’s I could see the confidence and love you have for yourself, and it actually helped me to find the spark to go out again.

    I am proud to say, that I love my curves, I always will love them, but I am also happy that getting out of the house has reduced my weight a little bit as well (The Doctor recommended that I do, as I was becoming very ill)

    Thank you for helping me, even though you are not personally here, your words of being unique, really has helped me realize that I will always be fairly curvy and I can still feel good no matter what the others say.

  11. I’m really glad you are sticking up for the ‘skinnies’ here too. It always infuriates me when people get so far into the ‘curves are beautiful’ thing that they just shame in the opposite direction. We are all beautiful. You can be skinny with health issues. You can be overweight with health issues. And you can be either and thrive. Sadly it seems to be mostly women who do this to each other – the decent men I know and have known appreciate women for being real, whatever their size. I wish we women could (as a whole, cause there are also lots of fantastic, accepting women out there!) appreciate and respect each other.

  12. As a plus sized woman myself it took me a long time to feel comfortable in my body especially with so many people in the world who only ridicule and judge people who are not a size 2. I’ve been told so many times, “you have a pretty face but no one will date you if your fat” or I’ve had strangers comment on my weight just from seeing my facebook picture. It can be so draining to deal with that on an everyday basis. Everyone is beautiful, regardless of size. Watching your videos gives me so much inspiration because you are beautiful and kind. Your fashion videos give me so many ideas and stores I never knew about that have plus sized clothes. I think it is so sad how people try to tear you down because of your weight. Your weight has nothing to do with the person you are.

    You rock, Cora! Don’t let the haters bring you down :)

  13. Iam so sorry that rude people were so cruel to you and if I had seen the comments on the video,I would have surely went in your defense Miss Cora! Iam a plus size woman myself and my husband loves my curves and I have heard the backhanded compliments and people who were “concerned” for my health and said maybe I should think about losing weight *rolls eyes* What do these idiots think with saying things like that..like you are just going to look down at your body and gasp “Oh my God..you are right..I’m fat..excuse me while I go and page Jenny Craig! I totally agree that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and it makes me sad to see that a society can be so focused on what should be considered beautiful,I have compared myself to models and such in the past and I drove myself crazy doing it,I have starved myself,gained and lost weight on all kinds of “get skinny quick diets” I have had friends share stories with me,a good friend of mine whom I was just in a play with and she is a curvy girl,not fat by any means but very curvy with a butt and hips,told me a story that the skinniest that she ever was,it was because she would literally go out drinking all night and take diet pills during the day,her own Mother even told her that she looked so good,it scares me to think my friend could have died or at worst totally damaged her body.I know I have popped 2 diet pills and lived on diet Coke,Lean Cuisine and crackers..got skinny but felt like crap and for what..just so I would be accepted or called “normal size” I hate to be the one to break this to everyone but a standard size is a 14 and I’m proud to be that size,I’m working on losing weight but doing it in a healthy manner.I know this is a very long winded comment and I apologize for that but I just want to say to all the women out there,please just love yourself,no matter what size you are..you are all beautiful in every way and please never forget that! Miss Cora,I adore you and I love your vid’s,as a fellow makeup artist,I have learned quite alot from you,so please keep them coming beautiful lady,you shall always have a fan and a friend in me! Stay fabulous and fierce everyone..much love! xoxo

  14. I really hate that “it’s for your health” BS! It’s just a way for bigots to shame people who don’t fit their standards in language that is supposed be more acceptable. The focus, which should be on people’s health, is often turned to their weight – two different and not necessarily related concepts. And, as Avery commented above, women get hate for being too skinny as well as being too fat. You just can’t win, so you might as well do your own thing!

    Keep up the amazing makeup tutorials and fashion vids! You’re an absolute wonder and inspiration to me. And I hope you don’t ever feel obligated to give nasty people a public forum for their hate on your videos – it’s your space, and you should always feel comfortable in it.

  15. Love you Cora. Thank you so much for the insight! I am a plus size girl as well and it just seems as if that’s all most people see when they look my way. There is so much more to a plus size person than just the curves.

  16. I think what really matters is whether YOU are happy in YOUR own body, whether YOU feel sexy and beautiful. If you don’t then it is your own prerogative to lose weight, or gain weight. It’s really not anyone else’s place to tell you whether you are at a “healthy” weight or not, certainly not a random viewer of Youtube videos. That is just out of line and incredibly juvenile, not to mention hurtful. While I was watching this video I couldn’t stop smiling-Cora, you are so comfortable and confident and classy. I think you’re gorgeous. Keep on keeping on. :)

  17. agree, everything i post something in my youtube or on the internet in general the first think is your fat! so your ugly you don’t count. then i proceed to say we you have lovely hair and beautiful eye and thank you for your concern. The internet is a hard place because every one for every were is on it, and beauty is across the board and so different from place to place.

  18. I showed my 16 year old daughter who is a size 12 your lastest video . I am an ex beautician so she knows i am a little obsessed with makeup and your vids are my favorite ones . Her first response was love the jacket and she is really beautiful and i want her skin ( she is going through the pimple stage ) . Her boyfriend stuck his head over the computer and then promptly got slapped as he said you were hot .

    People need to learn to love themselves no matter what they look like and if they don’t like some part of them work to change it or work with it till they like it. You are a fantastic role model I am 38 and respect you for the great role model you are . Please don’t let shallow minded people ever stop you .

    Have an amazing day x

  19. I don’t know why people think that us big girls need to be constantly reminded of our weight. With me it is an on going battle, some days I think that I look really great and on others I feel like the crud that accumulates on the bottom of a sneaker. Its my belief that we are our own worst enemy, no one can make us feel as bad as our own thoughts that run through our heads.
    When I stumbled upon your videos, I was in the crud phase. Watching your tutorials and fashion vids have given me so much help. I’m starting to feel comfortable in my skin and I’ve always loved make up so it’s a win win for me.
    I’m 27 and I feel that I have finally found a role model that I can look up to. You are amazing Chick! Don’t let anyone get you down.

  20. You are intensely and immensely correct. I didn’t start watching you because you’re a bigger girl, and I didn’t start watching you because you were small. I started watching you because you have AWESOME style and you keep my attention with that bubbly personality. You’re beautiful, regardless of what size you are! I also think a lot of “skinny” women are beautiful just the same. It’s not the size that should matter, it’s the person.

  21. Cora, you rock. I completely agree with you. Health is not determined by weight, as fat-shamers like to believe. Beauty and value of a person is not determined by weight, among many other factors our culture likes to believe. The most radical thing a person can do is love themselves no matter what other people or our culture thinks is “beautiful”. You are inspirational.

  22. I agree 100%. There are so many people out there who feel the need to be rude for no reason at all. You’re entitled to look however you want, whether it be a certain style, weight, etc. It really hurts to have a community that’s supposed to be about artistic expression and creativity be invaded by people who are just out to hurt feelings and be hateful. I really love that you took the time to address this issue. You’re an inspiration to so many people and we don’t care how much you weigh, we’ll always see you as a gorgeous person.

  23. What I admire so much about you is your level of confidence. So many girls, regardless of their size, are self-conscious to the point that they can’t love themselves and want nothing more but to change. And you’re completely right; no one should be judged based on a stupid number, or any single aspect of themselves. People shouldn’t be making such rude and hateful comments – they should be seeing what a strong and inspiring person you are for being able to love yourself. Unfortunately people have this tendency to try and pull each other down instead, and the best we can do is shut out the negativity to the best of our ability.

    Thank you for your great videos and admirable personality. :)

  24. I think you are absolutely adorable and a wonderful role model for any insecure person. You are who you are, and you exude confidence and happiness. When I look at you, all I see are those two things.

    I’ve mentioned I’m a product consultant at Sephora, and you’d be surprised how people bring up my weight while I’m helping them. One older lady held onto my arm, looked me in the eyes and said, “You’re so nice, and si beautiful, but, why don’t you lose weight? You’d be so much healthier ( I have no visible ailments) and happier (I’m married, have a super fun job, and genuinely love life) and I know you inly eat because of low self esteem.” She went on for 10 minutes about how she wished I would lose weight. She made me feel so bad about being me, and all I could do was nod and smile (I was at work).

    My own mother reminds me every so often, “I’m so shocked that they hired you. I mean, their image is tall, thin, model types. You show them that anyone can be pretty.” Yeah, her and I have a wonderful relationship.

    My one wish is for fat shaming to be considered a form of bullying and for more people to accept us fir who we are, not our weight.

  25. I’ve said it before, and I will say it again, you ROCKED that look, if I was gay, I would be all over you!
    You are a beautiful person, inside and out and I get so excited when I see one of your video’s as you are so inspiring.
    You are loved by so many, may those who were rude get what is coming to them.

    Blessed be Cora xxxxx

  26. I think you are great the way you are. i love your videos it has helped me feel better about curvey girl that want to look styleish. And helps me think of new ways to style myself. Because curves are better then bones.

  27. Hi, Cora!

    I’ve been dealing with fat-shaming most of my life. In fact, I’m never been at an “acceptable” weight. I started my first diet when I was 9 and went to my first Weight Watchers meeting when I was 10. At 22, I’m struggling with morbid obesity.

    The kids I grew up with were cruel. The girls made fun of me. I could have a ton of things in common with them, but the boys wouldn’t date me because I was fat. Kids today are cruel, if not crueler. I’m an elementary student teacher and I don’t know how many times I’ve turned away from hearing kids snicker at me or say how ugly I am because I’m fat. I don’t know how to respond. I never have. One day, I hope I will.

    A family member once told me that even though I have a pretty face, she didn’t know if I would ever find a man if I didn’t lose weight. Gee, thanks! I’ve had doctors not even try to treat me because I’m fat. They tell me that I’m fat (Really? I haven’t noticed!) and that’s it. Nothing else is the matter. Sorry Doc, there really was something wrong — my gall bladder needed to be removed! Yes, I have acne. No, I really don’t believe my weight is the sole cause for the past 15 years.

    There is such a prejudice in this world. I do not understand it. We’re people, too, who have far more things to offer than our weight. Sit down and talk to me, and you’ll hear how I’m changing the lives of my students every day. You’ll hear how I plan to committ the next several years of my life to teaching, encouraging and supporting children. You’ll see that even though I’m fat, I have a interest in the beauty and fashion world. It’s not just for skinny folk! Yeah, I’m a short, fat girl, but I bet I know more about basketball than most boys. Why not get to know me? Am I that terrible of a person because I have flaws?

    It hurt when I was little and it hurts now. My self-esteem isn’t the greatest, but my confidence is building. In fact, I’ve wanted to start a beauty blog for so long, but I didn’t have the courage to because I was afraid of hurtful comments. You have been such an inspiration to me. Once I started watching your videos, you’ve really helped me to become more accepting of myself. I’ve even found the confidence to start my blog and Instagram account!

    More importantly, I finally realized if I want to change, I need to change for myself only — NO one else. If people don’t want to take the time to get to know me because I’m fat, that’s their loss. Certainly not mine. Yes, comments will still continue to hurt and it will probably shake my confidence. But the support that I see here is very comforting. Hopefully, I will also build a community on my blog that shows the same level of support. I want to inspire those who struggles with her weight like SO MANY others. I want to make a difference.

    You’ve helped me to see that I can. Thank you, Cora, for being YOU!

    — Taylor

    1. You need to add GFC to your blog so I can follow you ;)

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  28. I understand you’re just an ordinary woman doing her thang, but you have slowly become one of my heroes because of your confidence. My college campus is filled with these thin, gorgeous girls that seem to never have a “fat day”. Since being at school, my self-esteem has dropped to an all time low because I am one of the biggest girls on this campus. It hurts knowing I can’t wear my sororities’ shirt because they don’t carry my size or not being able “shop” my hall mates’ closets because they are all smaller than me, but since I have found you on YouTube, your confidence has rubbed off on me. Anyone can say, “screw the negative comments”, but it takes more to actually believe that and I feel like you do. Thank you for being there for not just me, but for every other women because like it or not, you’re not an ordinary woman; you’re an inspiration to us all.

  29. Cora, you are truly an inspiration, not just to plus-size girls, but to all girls! You are absolutely right, shaming anyone for their body type is just plain wrong. I have always been judged for my looks. I’m 5’10 and a size 14 and all my friends are size 00-6. I was always that huge girl that no boy wanted to come near to. I’m currently 16 and still struggle, especially because my friends were really critical. There was this beautiful athletic girl in my class and she has this amazing size 8 hourglass figure and people still told her she would look better if she lost weight. I believe everyone is beautiful just the way they are and if they decide to change (lose weight, dye their hair, etc) for the sake of anything, they are just as beautiful anyway! No figure, skin color, or hair color is better than any other. Beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors! Thanks for your inspiration!

  30. Cora,

    I can’t tell you how much I look up to you. Not just because I find you so beautiful, but because you have the courage to love your self the wonderful way you are. Your courage inspired me to try and do the same, but I have to say I love myself more after I use your makeup techniques. You are absolutely the most amazing person I wish I had the pleasure of knowing. People like you are one in a million!

    ~Jamie

  31. This is a cruel world that we live in. Personally I think you’re young and beautiful and you’re letting your light shine for all the world to see. I, myself am in my early 50’s, and as a women of a certain age that enjoys beauty blogging and making YT videos, I get my share of criticism much worse than yours, they say to me…. “you’re old and your hands are wrinkled”, “your eyes sag”, “wigs make you look hidious” and so on… I just ignore it and keep on pushin cause… i’m not going down without a fight!

  32. Sorry, I kind of went on a rant! It can build up sometimes! (;

    I also wanted to say that you are completely right — Real, BEAUTIFUL women do come in all shapes and sizes. From size 00 and beyond. No one should be ashamed of or hated on at any size. It truly is unacceptable and I hope for the day when people of all shapes and sizes recognize that.

    That’s all for tonight! This night owl has papers to grade! (:

    — Taylor

  33. Cora, I think you are beautiful inside and out. I also think it couldn’t have been said better than you stated above! We are not meant to be cooker cutters of one individual person. You are such an inspiration, and great role model for these younger girls that might be watching you! :)

  34. Amen cora I was so happy when.i came accross your channel because it helped me with who I am now… before I had my son I was a size 3 and now im a size 11 and pregnant again makes me scared of whats to come… Ive tried to loose weight because of so much pressure put on me well on us as women that we have to be thin… But I am learning to embrace it and women like you are a big help… My boyfriend always tells me that im beautiful and hot and he loves me for me for who I am. People are always going to bring us down but it doesnt matter what size you are because if you have an ugly personality then guess what your a pretty damn ugly person… KEEP ROCKIN GIRL FRIEND YOU AND YOU FABULOUS SELF!!

  35. I totally agree!! I used to think, “REAL women have curves” and “Screw those skinny bitches!” It’s that type of thinking that oddly enough made me hate myself even more. Once I learned to accept ALL body types and that you’re just as much a woman if you’re skinny, fat, pear shape, apple shape, etc, I learned to accept and love myself as well. We’re all souls with emotion that take on the form of a human body, and that’s what we’re given. You are beautiful, my dear, and your spirit is even more beautiful.

  36. You’re so right Cora! It goes both ways. I am curvy too but I worked with a boss who had her own weight issues, and she would just constantly comment on the skinny girls weights. She was constantly calling them things like “Skinny minnie” and asking them why they aren’t eating enough and just kind of pick on them. One of the girls finally confessed to me that it really bothered her how our boss pointed out how she was thin all the time. It made her self aware of her body and really effected her self esteem. We as women need to embrace each other and love each other for who we are. Curvy, skinny, fat, thin, pear shape, apple shape, blah blah blah – who cares! We’re all beautiful and we all have things that make us amazing! I may not always love my body, but things like your make up tutorials help me play up my blue eyes! I love my eyes, so I play that up! And you inspire me all the time to do my make up, and play with colors. I know that when I’ve tried a new look and got compliments it’s made my day and boosted my self esteem!

    So down w/ the haters! You’re an inspiration and beautiful! And I love watching your videos because you are personable and you resonate with your views!

  37. It’s taking awhile to make fat shaming a thing of the past and unfortunately, it’s still prevalent in our culture as hard as we try to combat those who get a kick out of making the larger people of the world feel so insignificant. It shouldn’t make any difference on what size we are, what we wear, how we do our make up, etc., but there are those who choose to criticize and pick and belittle the people who aren’t like them. That in itself is sad. But seeing you as a strong and inspirational person helps to show that it isn’t about what we look like, it’s more about who we are as a person and that is a beautiful message and one that I have grown to live by.

    Thank you for bringing some attention to this topic, Cora!
    <3

  38. I am me, I am not my dress size and if all you see when you look at me is that, then I do not need to know you. Beauty is in all of us if you look past the cover. You simply rock Cora! Not because of your size but because you have an awesome personality. I started watching you because you had pink hair ( something I always wanted to try) I am still watching you because you are very talented, educational and entertaining. I will keep watching you as long as you keep making videos. I pray for a world where we are blind to all but the person and as long as people like you are out there then there is hope that it may one day not matter what the scale, measuring tape says.

  39. Oh my… People always find something to complain about. Either you’re too fat, thin, gay or yadayadayada. I get so tired of that people can’t just accept everyone as they are and appreciate their unique beauty. In my case I get _a lot_ of hate whenever Sugarpill decides to publish one of my makeup looks on their Facebook-page. Why? Because I have no eyebrows. At first I got quite upset but then I realized that what other people – particularly people who don’t even know me – think is irrelevant. I love having no eyebrows and that’s a part of my personal beauty just as curves are a part of yours. :) It is very deliberating to come to such a conclusion!
    And Cora, you are SO beautiful and you are my favorite Youtuber and one of my greatest sources of inspiration. :) Keep up the great work!
    Love / Madam Noire

  40. I couldn’t agree more. But the world is a very shallow place where very few people bother to look beyond appearances. I find it very sad that so few people bother to get to know others before judging them. For me, beauty is a internal thing as well as external. There are so many gorgeous curvy and larger women who’s beauty is added to by a lovely personality but conversely, there are gorgeous women rendered less attractive because they are just horrible people. Beauty does come in all shapes and sizes and it’s about time the world at large acknowledged this and stopped deeming people less beautiful for being larger or even worse, insulting people because of their size.

    I think you’re beautiful inside and out and if others can’t see that, that’s their problem. I’m constantly stared at and judged on how I look and some days it does get me down but I try to remember that I know who I am and if they don’t bother to look beyond my appearance, that’s their tough luck.

    Lou x

  41. As a lifelong “fat kid” I take comfort in the fact that if someone is a dick, they will find any way to insult you. Its just that my being fat is the easiest way for them to do it. It’s not even about me half the time, its about someone else just being a straight-up dick.
    You are one of the on-line personalities that inspired me to start my own blog. Thank you for paving the way, and putting yourself out there. Just doing what you do makes a difference, and will play a part in changing people’s perceptions of “well-padded” people.

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  42. I don’t have a lot to add aside from how much I agree. I follow fashion blogs from people both bigger and smaller than me and try and take the inspiration and translate it to my own body size. If it makes you feel a little better about it all, I loved the leggings from that post on you so much that I hopped over to Asos and ordered them for myself! Keep doing what you do, I’ll always be a fan :D

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  43. Unfortunately, some people are not happy unless they make other people miserable. It is truly saddening to me. You are truly an inspiration to me, and from what I can tell, a lot of other people on this planet. You have confidence in your body and you are not afraid to show it off! Kudos Cora! You have more confidence that I do! Well done!

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  44. Hey doll, proud of you for addressing this. As you said, beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and there’s absolutely no need to degrade one end of the spectrum just to uplift the other. The “real women” thing is ridiculous, all women are real, all women can be beautiful, and most importantly all women deserve respect and acceptance.

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  45. I feel totally sorry for those people who said nasty things to you. To put others down for whatever reason , doesn’t define the one they are putting down but defines only themselves. Their self worth tank must be completely empty to have to say such awful things to you. You are perfect, beautiful, smart, talented, and truly a sweet soul. I don’t usually comment but you are awesome! I love your videos and blog. I have a thing, that when someone says something good or bad to me or about me, I have to take it God and let Him tell me what is the truth. I want nothing sinking into my heart that’s not truth., good or bad. I don’t want to be arrogant or have no self worth… Don’t let UN truth sink in…. You are beautiful!

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  46. You should be happy: the more nasty comments you receive, the most successful you’re becoming!!! Some people hate their life and then there is you: a beautiful, intelligent and talented woman, and they hate themselves even more for not being like you!
    Anyway, I think you’re the best role model!!!

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  47. I completely agree with everyone. Beauty isn’t one separate thing or ideal: everyone has a different idea of it. And it’s this variety that makes the world such an incredible and beautiful place to be a part of :) if everyone was skinny or fat or blonde or green eyed or whatever, society would be so boring.

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  48. What I noticed last year myself is that people who make these comments about being fat, skinny or whatever, aren’t happy with themselfs! They need to put someone down to feel good about themselfs.

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  49. Youtube comments are where trolls lurk. >:( I think you are gorgeous. I’m a huge hater of body shaming for all women. I have a billion thoughts on this, but I think they’ve all been said, so I’ll just offer compliments. I love your blog. You are my favorite makeup artist blogger. Your skin is amazing, I love your hair, and I love your sense of style. Don’t take all that stuff to heart and let it eat at you. You’re amazing!

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  50. I feel totally sorry for those people who said nasty things to you. To put other down, for whatever reason, does not define the one they are putting down, but defines only themselves. Their self worth tank must be completely empty to have to say such awful things to you. You are perfect, beautiful, smart, talented, and a truly sweet soul. I don’t usually comment on anything, but you are awesome! I love your videos and your blog! I have a thing I do… when someone says something good or bad to me or about me, I have to take it God and let Him decide what is TRUTH… because I want nothing to sink into heart but truth, good or bad. I don’t want to become arrogant from a complement or have no self worth because of criticism . This way God, who made me, can define who I am, not others and not me. Don’t let UN truth sink into your heart. You are BEAUTIFUL! :D

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  51. I am so very sad and sorry about the negative comments you recieved. Please dont let it get you down or make you change anything about yourself or you videos. I count down until the next video and check back often. I think you are a beautiful girl and you got it so faunt it! LOL

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  52. Hello.
    I just want to say that you are the most beautiful and inspiring person in this world. When I discovered your blog and your makeup tutorials, you changed my life. I am a plus size girl struggling with my body but you made me realize that beauty come in all sizes, just as you said, and that I don’t have to be afraid of being mysel just because I don’t have a perfect body.
    Every time I watch your videos, I think: “Omg, Cora is just amazing, beautiful, confident…I admire her”
    Really, you are an inspiration for those women like me who are trying to accept our bodies, so thank you for being so awesome.
    I love you, Cora.
    Cheers from Mexico.
    P.S: Forgive my rustic english.

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  53. HERE HERE! As per usual I love you and what you have to say, and now have even more MAD respect for you than I did before! Not only are you one of my fav beauty bloggers, you’re a beautiful WOMAN and your love of yourself helps me feel more comfortable in my own skin, no matter what size I am. It’s your plus size fashion videos (and the support they receive) that are slowly but surely adding to my courage as I consider doing more youtube videos. I have been afraid that when I do a video I’m just going to get the usual “UR FAT!!!” comments…but then I realize yeah, I’m fat, and how dare I have something to say? Uh no! That’s not how it works! People’s voices all deserve to be heard.

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  54. I love you, Cora. I’m so sorry that some people are narrow-minded and rude. I’m glad that you’re a strong person that can deal with those types of people, though. Keep being your wonderful self and know that there are always going to be people that support you and appreciate you. xoxo -Jennie

  55. My thoughts are that you are even more beautiful now, after reading that, than you were before in my eyes. Who cares that you have perfect cheekbones or not if there is a smile on your face and compassion in your heart? I’ve gone from a fat-shamed size 18/20 to a size 8 and everyone thought I was sick. I had no curves and my bones stuck out (I’m built broad, 8 was tiny for my frame) and I was then shamed for being thin and bony. I finally let my body settle and learned that my body feels and looks best at a 12. More importantly I learned that I was the same person no matter my size, and its the person who counts.

  56. People can be so terrible!

    If you cant say anything nice, dont say anything at all! I read alot of those backhanded comments…”you’re pretty, but”, “that’s cute, but…” it’s so annoying! I dont even read the comments on alot of youtube channels because there are just so many immature and ignorant posts…its kinda sad!

    But Cora, you are FIERCE, and you would be at any size!

  57. There’s a blog I really like that tackles fat shaming, but in a different way. Please note, it DOES NOT hate on thin people. It just illustrates the difference between the way thin and fat people are treated. They also have a lot of information in their FAQ. Especially in regards to thin = healthy fat = unhealthy.

    http://thisisthinprivilege.tumblr.com/

  58. It is truly a sad world that we live in, where we are judged on outward appearances before a word is ever spoken. I not only blame it on Hollywood but society as a whole that continues to put up with “fat shaming” and perpetuating this ugly culture of body obsessed people. True beauty shouldn’t be labled and we are all unique for a reason and can contribute in so many different and wonderful ways. I get the same thing in my life because I once was very thin and have put on quite a bit of weight over the years. When and if I decide to lose some weight it will be for me and on my own terms, not because I feel “shamed” into doing it. I truly appreciate your blog and videos and kudos for doing it even when facing mean people with nothing else better to do but try to put others down. Please contiue what you do. I have a question, how comfortable were those shoes that you rocked for punk cleopatra? LOL

  59. Spot on, Cora. This obsession with size is why I’ve been struggling for 2 years with a border-line anorexic daughter who fears getting fat above all else. With a plus-size mother like me, she’s well aware of how society treats big women and how that treatment of us affects our self-esteem. She refuses to look at herself in a mirror and I have her on an eating plan in order to make sure she eats more than her desired 500 calories per day.

    Unfortunately, fat-shaming is the last accepted and promoted prejudice. It is accepted in the media and promoted by Hollywood and our television shows. It needs to stop!!!! How many more of our young men and women have to die from self-starvation before we realize this needs to stop!

  60. I have the opposite side of the spectrum problem. I have been ill for the past year and it has forced me to loose 50lbs. I so miss my curves. I felt healthier and most of all felt more self confidence. A ideal woman is not a bikini model from a magazine. I don’t get the fat comments I get the ” you look anorexic and you look like you are wasting away” comments. These are just as hurtful. Being skinny or being bigger is just a state of being. What I need to now do is learn to embrace my new body I have been given rather than feel like I must shy away from people.

  61. I loved your outfit! Really accentuated your curves! Gorgeous!! I wish we had some of the clothing stores you guys do here in Canada :/
    Your makeup always looks amazing as well – you’ve given me a lot of different inspirations being a budding makeup artist!

  62. People are just so insensitive! Keep doing what you do,Cora. I think your tutorials are awesome. I love your fashion sense and think you truly have your own wonderful and unique style. You don’t have to be a size 2 to be a fashion diva, people! Get over it!

  63. Amen. Fat shaming is not ok, not even sugar coated like the mentioned “your pretty, but you should lose weight for your health” comments. I have no idea how many times I was told that growing up from various people (friends, family members, even strangers at some point). I don’t understand why people feel the need to point out the blatantly obvious, not only is it rude but it’s also extremely hurtful.

    I know these comments eventually really got to me, and I resorted to having the lap-band surgery at 19. Looking back now, though I’ve lost the weight I still have this crippling fear of how other people perceive me weight wise. I feel like I had a healthier state of mind overweight then I do now. So that “health” concern is a bunch of bull.

    That’s why I admire you Cora, your not afraid of what people think. Your confident in what you do and you completely own it.

  64. You are truly a fabulous role model! I have just subscribed to your YouTube channel.

    I was bullied through my entire school life and still get nasty comments from people, people who come into where I work and say things like “I was talking to the fat one” it is so hurtful. I spend my time hiding out at home so I don’t have to deal with it. I can tell that seeing a fantastic person like you on the web is going to inspire me to try and be less afraid.
    Keep up the good work daaaahling. Xxxxx

  65. My friends and I were just talking about this very subject a few days ago.
    Everything you said, I can completely agree with you.
    I am a very small girl, i’m just over 5ft tall and a size 6, sometimes I struggle to get clothes to fit and I have to buy my waist belts from the childrens section.
    When people start to see my size, they assume I have an eating disorder…I should ‘get a burger down me’ according to most. They don’t know what my diet is like!
    One of my work colleagues thought it ok to point out that I was ‘too skinny.’

    I would never put another woman down because of her shape or size.
    What matters is that we’re all happy being who we are.
    People can call me too skinny,
    People can call you fat,
    but we are a lot more beautiful than any of those people who would pick us apart over our bodies.

    What I see when I look at you is colour and vibrance. sure, you’re a larger lady, but hell, you rock that body!
    xoxox

  66. *shakes her head and wonders what the world is coming to now

    If I am completely truthful, the first thing that drew my attention to Cora and the primary reason for following her feed –IS her size.

    Knowing the particular make-up look I want, I began combing the web in search of tutorials on how to achieve that look….only to find the tutorials were really geared for women of —shall we say less substance than I. Don’t get me wrong, they are beautiful women, it’s just that their looks don’t really work on rounder, “Precious Moments Babies” faces like mine.

    With Cora I found a beautiful woman, whose make-up style I like, who is also a woman of substance…for me, it’s like hitting the Trifecta.

  67. I don’t understand the “do it to be healthy” argument. Sure it’s more common for overweight people to have health problems but just because someone is overweight doesn’t mean they’re unhealthy. Likewise, just because a person ISN’T overweight doesn’t mean they’re healthy. Skinny people have heart attacks. Skinny people can have coronary artery disease. Skinny people can have diabetes.

    Health isn’t the problem. It’s just been bred into us for the past couple decades that chubby people aren’t attractive and haters just need to find a way to tell us without revealing how shallow they are.

    As an overweight woman myself, I know how fat-shaming feels. You’re beautiful inside and out, I’m very proud of you for what you do. It takes strength. <3

  68. WOW you are SO pretty!!!!
    self-confidence is that make us pretty or not, and the love in our hearts and for others! there are a lot of people out there that they want sooo badly something that you have and they (of course) dont ;) The thing that they cant do makes them mad and so JEALOUS! head UP and ******!!
    keep rockiiiin!

  69. Preach sistah!!! Kudos to you for making a statement and being confident in yourself. The haters on youtube just probably dont know the real you and are scared that there are women in the world that are not ashamed to have curves. You are brimming with confidence and i look up to you as a role model. Love the punk rocker look!!!
    Rock on! <3

  70. I happened upon this blog after seeing a tutorial on applying false lashes (I accidentally ripped half of my right eye lashes out with my curler :( and needed something quick to hide my hideous mistake!). After watching, I came to the blog and I have to say, I LOVE it! You are a real woman and I want to say ‘thank you’. My own Mother made a skinny comment to me, although I know she wasn’t being rude, it still hurt. Thank you for being you and keep up the make up blog!!

  71. ive been watching vintageortacky for almost 2 years now and the FIRST thing I noticed about her was her bright and bubbly personality I fell in love with her and watch religiously. I found her at a bad time in life and was like ‘life doesn’t really have much point to it anymore’ she made me feel like yeah I am awesome. I think shes gorgeous and her husband is one lucky son of a gun and ive shared her stuff with my sister who has been weight shamed her whole damn life even from our own family and shes made an impact on my sis too, im called chicken legs a lot and ppl think its ok to make fun of skinny ppl bcus we are more socially acceptable so it wont hurt us. I love you Cora and im glad to see you think better of yourself and have beautiful self confidence. you are doing a lot more good than you think touching hearts of your viewers new and old. So don’t let those ignorant arses bother you they are missing out on a beautiful spunky person <3

  72. Good on u Cora and everyone who commented it seems like we have to be completely dedicated to our shape who cares what your body looks like its what in your heart that matters and its pretty evident that Cora is beautiful inside and out❤❤❤❤ and all of us as women r

  73. Cora, you’re amazing just the way you are! I’m a former model and I know how hard it is to keep up with the standarts and that’s one of the main reasons I decided to stop modeling. Nobody should worry about other people’s opinions, you should love yourself the way you are. I LOOOOOOOVE your tutorials, you’re funny and makes me laugh and have a wonderful time watching your videos!!! Huge hugs from Brazil!!

  74. I struggle with understanding why people feel they have the right to tell someone to lose weight or gain weight (unless you’re in your doctors office) ect. I’d be willing to bet most people who say things like that do it because they’re upset with their own body. I’ve got a friend who eats as much as she wants and what she wants but she can’t put on weight, it’s just not something she can do. I remember trying to comfort her after she was told she couldn’t donate blood because she was under the weight limit. It’s odd as someone who is not yet fully comfortable with their fat body (me) to have a conversation with an upset friend because she’s not heavy enough. Eventually we both learned to joke about it but it really does show you that even the ‘super model’ size girls have body issues and it can be really hurtful when people say things like ‘real women have curves’.

  75. ive gone from XXX-L to XS, and one thing ive realized is that self love and respect is the most important thing. however, the new fat acceptance moving is giving out the message that its okay to be overweight, that its okay to be unhealthy. i think thats a dangerous message to give out.

    ive been stubborn about not losing weight again, and its caused me to have to get my gallbladder removed, whats coming next? diabetes? heart problems?

    the movement that should be occuring is health acceptance, and encouraging people to be healthy. not to be overweight and happy, and not that you need to be super tiny. but to be healthy, and take care of your body.

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