In my most recent YouTube Video, Musings Of a Fox and I tried a fast fashion clothing brand whose aesthetic could be best described as body-con: Tight dresses, jeans, catsuits- even the sweats are kinda tight. These clothes are meant to show the body, not hide it. Fabric quality and construction issues aside, I’m really happy a brand like this exists. Because even as plus size fashion has blossomed and our choices are expanding, the reality is fat women are STILL told they should feel bad about their bodies, cover the fuck up, and we are sold clothing that does just that. Hide those rolls, never show cellulite and never ever let your stretch marks see the light of day.
That is unless you are an “acceptable fat” i.e., Smooth. Hourglass or Pear shaped. I kinda fall into that category, and then again I kinda don’t. I have big boobs, a big butt and hips, I have a defined waist, but I also have big tummy. And hip dips, cellulite and stretchmarks. I am not ragging or dragging myself: This is the reality of my body, and I can speak about it objectively. I’ve gone through the tunnel of self love, and it wasn’t always a comfortable journey. But now, I love me, and my body in an extension of that. Not all day everyday, but sometimes I even I think I’m pretty hot stuff thankyouverymuch. The fact is, I’m much more concerned with living a good life and being present so I just can’t be bothered to obsess over what my body looks like. I just want to live my life, which includes participating in fashion in anyway I feel like. Some days that means flattering silhouettes. Some days it means covering the fuck up. Some days It means a crop top or skin tight jumpsuit. Whatever it is, it’s my choice.
Which is why when I posted this video wearing bodycon clothing, see thru bodysuits, crop tops etc… Some people commented that I’d look better if I were wearing shapewear and I was taken aback. I so rarely wear shapewear in my videos so for me, it was just business as usual, but I forget that not everyone sees things the way I do. Not everyone is comfortable enough to wear a crop top and a mini skirt, or a body con skirt without shapewear, and I get that. I am here to show you guys the reality of what these clothes look like on my real body, not sell you a fantasy that none of us live up to. I’m here to be a “visibly plus” person, so that it’s not an anomaly to see a fat person both happy AND with a visible belly outline.
Here’s the thing: I don’t wear shapewear 95% of the time. I used to be a die-hard Spanx obsessive. I mean you guys, I wore the high-waist power panty EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. To work an 9 hour shift slinging lipstick. To the movies. To Thanksgiving. Because even though I couldn’t hide the fact that I was fat, I could present myself as an “acceptable fat“. Smooth. No wiggle. No Jiggle. This is who I was when I started Fashion Blogging 6 years ago, and when I go back and watch those videos, I cringe. A lot. Because I look stiff and uncomfortable. Compare that to my most recent video, where I’m in a catsuit and I’m dancing and wiggling about and having a grand time with my bestie. Whatever you think about how I look, it’s undeniable that this version of me is happy, and is more comfortable with herself than the sausaged-in version I used to think I had to be to be acceptable.
These chicks are having a great time
This wasn’t easy for me, but a couple of years ago, I just said fuck this: I want to be able to breathe. I saw other fat people eschewing shapewear. I saw bodies like mine being represented in media for the first time. I realized, shapewear was a tool, not a necessity. I didn’t have to wear shapewear. I could if I wanted to, but it wasn’t a requirement. What freedom! And now when I do wear it, it’s entirely by choice.
So yeah, sometimes I still rock shapewear because I do want that snatched look, but 95% of the time, I just wanna live, breathe, dance and play, and it’s easier to do all of that without my organs being squeezed. If you wanna rock shapewear I’m here for you, and I’ll even review shapewear this coming year! What I’m I’m not here for is being told I have to wear shapewear to make my body more palatable. If you don’t want to, you don’t have to either.
Keep it rockin’